The best relationships are made of two people, each giving their best to one another. Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.
Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. So many single men and women are seriously asking for the guidelines on finding a compatible mate.
The following are a few personality traits to avoid when looking for a life partner.
You should on no account ever attempt to marry an Ignoramus. She is an incredibly ignorant person. The Ignoramus is the kind of woman who hasn’t taken the time to know much about herself, her values, or what she feels or think. She is the ‘You Complete Me’ kind of woman and is gullible enough to agree to all your preferences without profound additions or adjustments. Although, this may seem to make life peaceful at first, later on, the lack of ingenuity and depth will wear you off. A fantastic relationship involves two unique identities – not just one trying to clone the other. You can’t afford to be unequally entwined with an Ignoramus. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not a partnership but war. You don’t expect a woman who doesn’t know herself to understand and love you unconditionally.
The Material Girl
If you don’t want to live in debt for the rest of your life, never enter into a relationship with, not to talk of marrying this kind of lady. Never marry a woman that has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse. With this woman in your life, savings will only be a mirage.
Some macho men like to throw their weight around and pretend to be superior to women. Divas are the exact female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice before hurting people to drive home their point. Their words are harsh, and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. What you need is a woman who will pour into you as much as you deposit into her, one who will sharpen and challenge you to be better while you do the same for her.
The Contentious Woman
I believe this is perhaps the worst of all the women you could marry. A woman like this is like a sound of a leak dripping: constant, annoying and problematic. She will always leave you questioning your value, your significance and worth. It is better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a contentious spouse.
This kind of woman is a control-freak, she will try to control your entire life and system. She always has her opinion about everything: how and on what you should spend your money, what food you eat and how you eat it, what clothes you wear and even how you use the toilet – It’s that bad.
Most women like this have insecurity issues, so they tend to make up for it by taking it out on their relationships. Even though this habit can be corrected, it takes a lot of time, introspection and deliberate effort to outgrow.
Now, if you already found yourself in a relationship with this type of woman, I would only advise you to step away from the relationship and give her the time she needs to heal, to learn and to grow.
With these five personality checks in mind, I would have you remember and be mindful of the reality that marriage isn’t about finding a perfect person – We all know that doesn’t exist, right? It’s about finding imperfect individuals who are quick to learn by realising their flaws and weaknesses early enough and are working to become better with every passing day.